Okay, I have no idea what that was about. I simply asked what we could do to "spice up our love life".
I was hoping you would come up with some ideas honey that would be beneficial to both of us. But as usual, you seem to want to walk away from the issues rather than address them.
But let's not fight. I really want to know some ideas. I have a few that I found on the internet. Let me know if you like any of them.
Make a date night - Pick a time and consider it a treat -- not one more thing on our to-do list. Think it's a downer to plan for sex, honey? News flash: You basically always did. "A lot of what seemed like spontaneous sex, really wasn't. We had it on dates, weekends, vacation -- times we knew it would happen. Planned sex can still be hot sex."
Get busy anywhere but in our bed - Using the dining room table for something other than dining would add variety, but there's another reason to ditch our bedroom: "One of my friends said that he was always so tired that anytime he hit the mattress, he just wanted to sleep!"
How about spontaneous hugging - Try this hug hint: Sneak up behind me and wrap your arms around me. "I have 'breast receptors' all over my body. Your chest feels great against my back -- it's a big turn-on."
Use the past as an aphrodisiac - I know you are not a huge fan of talking dirty. So why not take a stroll down our shared sexual memory lane with me instead. "All it has to be is, 'Remember when you did X?'". It's likely to get you a repeat performance :-)
Stop focusing on the big O - "Rediscover the bases!" Take the pressure off by seeing how good we can make each other feel without any "goal" in mind.
Surprise me in the shower - The kids are unlikely to be suspicious of us being in the bathroom together in the morning.
Dip into our kids' toy chest - We paid for all those board games -- why don't we borrow them and play strip versions?
Share a fantasy - Not only is curiosity sexy, it also has the power to shift our relationship. "Too many people have 'psychic' sex. We all tend to think we know what the other person wants, when often we may be hiding the same desires."
Type up a turn-on - Sending a racy e-mail or text message to me only takes a few seconds.
Build anticipation - As I'm walking out the door in the morning, tell me what you can't wait to do to me that night. (Use code words so the kids won't understand.) We could feel excited all day.
Recreate our first dates - Bring back the initial lust we felt by revisiting the spots we went to in the beginning of our relationship.
Break our patterns - Since we do moves in a certain order in bed, we should change it up! Or set rules, like 'hands' or 'mouth only' tonight.
Get book smart - We could buy a book of new sexual positions, curl up on the couch together and ask if there are some things we'd like to try. "I used to being the one who has to approach you, and I never forget the sting of rejection. "I'd love it if you took the initiative."
Ignore the clock - We should stop viewing sex as a nighttime activity. We may be too tired to do it then anyway! Fooling around on a Saturday afternoon, while the kids are out, could be very steamy.
Get me in a liplock - Everyday intimate gestures are key to a sizzling sex life and kissing is the number one thing that turns you on. "Pull me close and say, 'I adore kissing you.'"
